In Culture, Identity, Politics on May 11, 2011 at 10:13 pm

“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality.”

stagnant (ˈstæɡnənt) adj

1 (of water, etc) standing still; without flow or current

2 brackish and foul from standing still

3 stale, sluggish, or dull from inaction

4 not growing or developing; static

Synonyms dormant, lifeless, dead, inert, lazy.

There is a common ideal that threads throughout the television shows and movies that my peers and myself consume. We seem to enjoy a dialogue of enlightenment. A waking up of oneself- to WHAT seems irrelevant. I’m talking ‘The Beach’, ‘Fight Club’, ‘Alice in (fucking) Wonderland’ and ‘The Secret’- I’m talking self discovery, self destruction. I’m talking “self improvement is masturbation- now, self destruction…” Have you ever read Fight Club? That shit echoes perfectly the bored fury of the generation I had the dubious honour of being born to- milling, static in their obsession that they SHOULD be impassioned, but really couldn’t get up enough energy to.

Bi-Winning! (Quit hatin’, we’re people too)

In Gay, Identity, labels, Uncategorized on March 29, 2011 at 11:12 pm



“Bisexuals are easy. They just want to have sex with everyone. They’re fence sitters. They’re not real. It’s a phase. They need to pick a team. I wouldn’t date a bisexual because they’d probably cheat on me. They’re confused. They’re really just straight women having some fun and wanting some attention…”


Does any of that sound familiar?

In a community where inclusivity is so highly valued, solidarity is essential and a little open-mindedness is (dare I say it), expected, it seems bizarre that bisexuals are still getting such a bad rap. What’s even more astonishing is that the bulk of this stigma comes from within the GLBTIQ community, a marginalised group of individuals who should absolutely know better.

Inclusiveness is a Two-way Street

In Gay, Identity, labels, Lesbian, Uncategorized on March 20, 2011 at 9:09 am

“Inclusion is a sense of belonging: feeling respected, valued for who you are; feeling a level of supportive energy and commitment from others so than you can do your best work.”

Miller and Katz (2002)  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inclusion_(value_and_practice)

When I was a university first year things were different. I had a problem, and that problem was that I was gay. That I was female. That I was over weight.

I wanted to be a part of “society”, of the natural social manifestation of inclusion that friendship and bonding generates, but my problem was that I might not fit the perfect picture of an individual that a group I want inclusion in might want to know.

So, do I change myself? Or do I demand that the group change to include me?